Yes I am and NO you cannot Watch!

I am what my community calls a femme. As a femme, It’s always been a shock and hard for people to bridge the gap between my physical femininity and the actuality of my lesbian lifestyle and identity. They are always shocked and/or confused to hear that I am gay and not some sexually confused youth or “Has-bian” Lol A lot of times after the “You ARE!?” question comes the inappropriate inquiries, advances and statements. A lot of young or immature men think a feminine lesbian is a woman interested and open to making their little lesbian themed fantasies come true. It’s gross and at my young age, already redundant and annoying. It still shocks me how forward and offensive people can be. I’ve gotten, “Oh your gay, I’ll take you and your girlfriend!” or “Wow! Can I come too?” or “Can I watch!?” Seriously!?!? Where in my explanation of me not being interested because I’m gay, did you hear “… but… YOU can join!?” It gives me an ill and angry physical jolt every time. This is the crap us women are subjected to. 

I get that there’s a common curiosity over lesbian relationships and intimacy. Everyone always asks if the sex is like in the porn’s or what they imagine… and the answer is no, it’s not. Porn is basic, boring, and for show and the close-minded definitely cannot fathom the reality of what happens between the sheets and entangled bodies of two women. Honestly, I can’t say I don’t understand society’s or men’s interest in lesbians. One woman is beautiful but two together is almost too much to handle. I understand they want to know what the hell it is that we are doing to one another that well, honestly they can’t. Many straight people don’t get how two women can experience true passion and pleasure without a man or penis involved. Not only is it possible it’s amazing and sacred when between two devoted, committed and loving individuals. So please stop asking the lesbians and bisexual women you encounter about our sex lives and recreating them for you. Guys think it’s a funny or a challenge but it’s just awkward, shrewd and shows how immature of a man the creep is. Now to clarify, I’m far from a man hating lesbian I just don’t want them in my bed! So in conclusion and for the millionth time! When you ask.... Yes I am, & NO you cannot watch!